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The Line That Should Never Be Crossed

When someone knows you are facing extreme challenges in your life – major change, deep personal loss, or a period when you are barely holding yourself together – and you turn to them for help, or even just someone to talk to, and they choose to mistreat you instead, something nasty and darker is happening. Continue reading “The Line That Should Never Be Crossed”

When Being the “Go-To” Person Becomes a Trap

I’ve always taken pride in being the guy people could count on—Mr. Reliable, the calm in the storm, the one who didn’t flinch when a deadline loomed or something needed to be done on short notice. I never minded being that guy. I still don’t, at least when it comes to work assignments. I getContinue reading “When Being the “Go-To” Person Becomes a Trap”

Putting the Past Behind You and Moving Ahead, And What That Really Looks Like

You’ve heard the advice a hundred times and maybe even here a few times. Let it go. Put the past behind you. Move forward. Move on. It sounds clean and empowering—like something you’d see on a motivational poster or hear in a graduation speech. However, that advice is useless if it doesn’t come with aContinue reading “Putting the Past Behind You and Moving Ahead, And What That Really Looks Like”

Malignant Narcissists: Understanding and Protecting Yourself

I’ve been delving into the darker side of the human condition lately, reading all sorts of credible articles and books on the subject. No, I haven’t gone to the dark side permanently or exclusively; in fact, I’ve balanced that reading with upbuilding spiritual reading and inspirational articles of people who have overcome severe obstacles toContinue reading “Malignant Narcissists: Understanding and Protecting Yourself”